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He touches me while I sleep

This is a horrible experience for you. You must feel confused and miserable, not to mention violated. It is clear that your sense of trust in your partner has been severely knocked because of his behaviour. You deserve better from someone who says they love you.

Experience tells me that your husband is suffering from a severe form of 'performance pressure'. In other words, he can only enjoy sex when he feels there is no chance of being judged in any way (i.e. when you are asleep). This also explains why he seems to have gone off sex as he is probably avoiding lovemaking in case he gets something wrong.

The big question is - why is this happening? You now need to search your memory for anything that could have undermined his confidence. This may be nothing to do with sex.

For example, has something gone wrong at work or has anyone criticised him in anyway? Have you, at some time, suggested that some aspect of your relationship is not as good as it was? Is he stressed or tense about some worry in his life? Any of these issues can cause a loss of self-esteem and ruin sexual confidence.

To resolve this issue you both need to stop drinking completely. This may sound drastic, but all the time either of you is drinking you cannot get to the bottom of the problem.

To some extent, you have both used alcohol to hide behind. Agree a 'no drinking' pact (at any time, not just in the evenings) for a month. Use the time you might have spent drinking to share some quality time together or have soft and non-alcoholic drinks together.

It looks as though you are using alcohol as a relaxant, but you need to find out why you are both so stressed that you have to resort to booze to calm you down.

The next thing to do is to find at least an hour when you can talk without interruption. Tell him what you know. If you carry on pretending that you do not know the secret sex is happening again nothing can move forward because you are both deceiving one another.

Try to do this without accusing or shouting. Keep calm, but be honest. Say you think there is a problem you both need to tackle. Avoid loading all the blame on him, but make it clear the situation cannot continue.

Once you have explained, and listened carefully to his response, make an appointment with a sex therapist. Therapy will help to lift his self-confidence and improve your sexual technique, enabling you both to enjoy sex together without the deception that has been happening for the last few years. Go to either www.relate.org.uk or www.basrt.org.uk for an expert therapist near you.

You can solve this, but you must both commit to being straightforward and honest with one another from now on. If you take the steps I have suggested, I'm sure you will overcome the problem.