She points to a survey conducted at Carnegie-Mellon University, where she teaches economics at the H. John Heinz III School of Public Policy and Management, in Pittsburgh. Graduates with master's degrees were surveyed by the university's career services department about their first job offers. Only 12 percent of women, compared to 51.5 percent of men, negotiated the salary offered. The male graduates, through negotiation, were able to increase their starting salaries by an average of 7.4 percent, or about $4,000.
Women are less inclined to negotiate because those who do are seen as "pushy," says Babcock. Men, conversely, aren't penalized for asking for more money.
In fact, according to Womensmedia.com, women achieve on average only a 2.7 percent increase when negotiating a raise or entry-level salary, compared to the 4.3 percent increase that men average.
Part of the reason women fail when negotiating is because they communicate differently than men, and men communicate the same way the business world communicates, says Lenora Billings-Harris, president of Excel Development Systems Inc., a diversity consulting firm. "Women have a tendency to communicate for the sake of connection," she says. Men, on the other hand, tend to spew out the facts and get on with it.
That means women tend to dance around a topic instead of getting straight to the point. They also tend to deprecate themselves and their requests. "A woman will rattle on about how she needs the money because of her three kids and how it probably isn't a big deal to her boss, but it is to her and she will get emotional and put her boss on the defensive," says Billings-Harris.
Billings-Harris's negotiating techniques:
- State the behavior. Be clear and succinct. Simply say that you are being paid $5,000 less than your male counterparts for similar work, or that you have gone without a raise for the past three years while other employees at the same job and with the same performance have received raises.
- Tell how you feel without getting too emotional. Focus on your objective rather than putting your boss on the defensive. A good approach: "My perception is that I am not being compensated equally for the work I do, and I feel underappreciated because of that," Billings-Harris says.
- Determine your options. Have a solution ready. "Share with your boss what would satisfy you: salary increases over a short period of time, more vacation time or flex time, a bonus, whatever would make you feel appreciated and yet not bankrupt the company, Billings-Harris says.
- Strive for a positive outcome. Don't threaten, but rather explain why your solution to the problem will be better for the company and for you. "If I am paid more, not only will my performance remain sterling, it will improve. It's an investment in me, and it's an investment that will help improve the company's bottom line."
To have a successful wage negotiation, also practice and rehearse what you will say before you approach your boss.
When it comes to being emotional, women, of course, aren't the only ones. Very often, supervisors -- male and female -- can become defensive when the subject of pay comes up.
Intentionally or not, you may be interrupted before you've had your say. If that happens, Billings-Harris recommends the "broken record" approach. Every time you are interrupted, just return to what you are saying until you've made your case. |
